Everything about Casual Relationship totally explained
Casual relationship is a term used to describe the physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have a
sexual relationship or a near-sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting a more formal relationship as a goal. It is more than just
casual sex and different from a
one-night stand. Related terms are "pals with privileges", "cut friends", an "extended hookup", a "
fling", "friends with benefits", "friends with privileges", "bene-friends", "sex buddies" and a "sexualized friendship". There are significant gender and cultural differences in acceptance of and breadth of casual relationships, as well as in regrets about action/inaction in those relationships.
A casual relationship may be part time, or for a limited time, and may or may not be monogamous. The term encompasses friendships between people who enjoy each other's physical intimacy but don't aspire to be long-term and may or may not involve parties who desire temporary relationships purely for
hedonistic purposes. In each case, the relationship's dominance in the lives of those involved is being voluntarily limited, and there's usually a sense that the relationship is intended to endure only so long as both parties wish it to.
To the extent such relationship include
casual sexual contact, the relationship is generally focused on fulfilling sexual rather than romantic or emotional needs.
Motives for casual relationships vary, and should be distinguished from
casual sex, which is a specific type of casual relationship. Casual relationships sometimes include mutual support, affection and enjoyment, which underpin other forms of
loving relationship.
More than working relationship less than monogamy
Although this sort of relationship is often portrayed as a relatively new phenomenon, the phrase "friends with benefits" was around for many years before it was popularized for a younger generation in the mid-1990s by the
Alanis Morissette song
"Head Over Feet" and a decade later in the television series
Boston Legal.
The television
sitcom Sex and the City focused further on casual sexual relationships.
The intent of a casual relationship can vary: sometimes to relieve sexual frustrations and other times simply as a friendship or part-time relationship, which includes sexual activity when wished. Usually a casual relationship isn't intended as a monogamous relationship. It is also not always synonymous with
casual sex, since it might even not include sex.
There are instances in which a genuine friendship exists between the two parties involved, along with some degree of sexual attraction to one. Varying degrees of emotional intimacy can be attributed to such a relationship, but this intimacy, although usually different from that of a committed relationship, is far from weak.
Sometimes both parties are free to date and engage in sex acts with other persons, however, others choose to have exclusive casual relationships. These types of relationships effectively give an outlet for sexual and intimacy needs without the potential stress and time-demands of a committed relationship. Two people may elect to become friends with benefits because they're unwilling to commit to a full-fledged
relationship or
long term relationship for whatever reason.
This arrangement is common among
young professionals, who put a lot of time into work and therefore don't have time for a
boyfriend or
girlfriend. Some claim that it also allows people who have sexual chemistry to use each other, even if they're not compatible on other levels.
In some cases the people involved limit their activities to masturbating each other or simply watching. This may happen, for example, amongst people sharing a student house. Straight persons may masturbate with members of their own sex with much homoerotic involvement.
These relationships are associated with younger people (early teenagers), and are often seen as a way to enjoy the benefits of sexual activities without the emotional strings of a romantic relationship. According to many teens, these relationships have been going on for some time, and it's estimated that at least 32% of people over 13 have had such an experience, despite limitations due to
age of consent laws. While providing a sexual outlet for some people, the practice is still associated with negative connotations. In teenage relationships in the US, the predominant activity isn't penetrative sex, but rather
oral sex and
mutual masturbation. Many teenagers believe that this reduces the risks associated with sexual promiscuity such as
pregnancy and
sexually transmitted diseases. Some medical authorities such as Bonnie Halpern-Felsher, a professor of
pediatrics, suggests that teenagers don't view oral sex as "real sex" and use it to remain in a state of "technical"
virginity.
Casual sex
Casual sex refers to certain types of
sexual activity outside the context of a
romantic relationship. The term isn't always used consistently: some use it to refer to any
extramarital sex, some use it to refer to sex in a
casual relationship.
Criticisms
A platonic friend of someone who has been in a formal committed relationship will sometimes offer to be a "friend with benefits" following the relationship's end or interruption ("breakup"). Many times this route is chosen if offered, and the formerly platonic friendship becomes a casual relationship if not a romantic one. Some claim this kind of situation may lead to a strengthened bond and can result in a romantic relationship, although others claim that it's more probable that a failure at one level (passionate, romantic or platonic) will cause the relationship to fail on all levels.
Other times, former partners from a failed relationship may decide to engage in a casual relationship due to residual emotional attachment, proven sexual compatibility, and/or limited opportunities for new relationships. It is referred to as "going out with an old flame". Again, the danger and the criticism is that the remaining amicable relations can be torn apart by a failure in the new casual relationship.
Related to the previous method, a romantic relationship that doesn't end in a full "breakup" can instead devolve into a casual relationship, where both partners are romantically unsatisfied by the other (or don't desire a romantic connection), but remain together to satisfy sexual desires or "for appearances". It is common, and in fact many marriages spend a significant time in this state before ending in divorce, but critics call it unhealthy as it keeps both partners in a relationship whose only purpose is physical, and prevents them from searching for a new romantic love.
Other criticisms include the fact that, similar to more formal romantic relationships, the introduction of sex into an interpersonal relationship retards further growth of the relationship. Sex is such a powerfully motivating event that it becomes psychologically addictive, and partners come to desire their significant other more for the sexual relationship and less for the emotional aspect. Invariably, one partner will start to feel "used" by the other.
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